J & J - A way of saying you’re messing with someone, but you’re not

A way of saying you’re messing with someone, but you’re not actually messing with them.

J & J said, 'I’m gonna kill you,' and then went to get a coffee.

J & J told me I was a 'bad friend' and then texted me a meme.

J & J said I was 'dead' and then came to my house with pizza.