E choke - A Nigerian saying that means if you don’t live it, you won’t

A Nigerian saying that means if you don’t live it, you won’t get it. Like if you don’t get slapped, you won’t know what pain feels like.

My mom said, 'If e choke, you go know,' when I kept failing tests.

My brother said, 'If e choke, you go know,' when I tried to eat a whole cake in one bite.

My teacher said, 'If e choke, you go know,' when I tried to do math in my sleep.